"I found the process infinitely more rewarding than anything I have sacrificed."
Donating a kidney to a stranger was something that had been in my mind for a long time. I had been thinking about it for about a decade, at least.
I first heard about altruistic kidney donation on a podcast. One of the hosts explained about the ‘pairing scheme’, where one person could ‘unlock’ a chain of donations and up to three people’s lives could be saved by that one person’s decision. I found it absolutely fascinating! It lodged in my brain and I found myself always coming back to it.
Finally, as I was coming to the end of my career and thinking about what I could do to mark my retirement, the first thing that came to mind was – “I’ve always considered donating a kidney. Perhaps now is the time to look into it!” I contacted my local transplant unit in Bristol and things moved forward from there. I’ve always been a healthy person. I’ve never had any major illness so I wasn’t expecting the testing process to turn up anything untoward but it’s still nice to know everything is working well!
I told my family what I was planning on doing and they were quite taken by surprise at first, but after I explained everything they came around pretty quickly. They understood the benefits it could offer someone who needed my second kidney far more than I did. They quickly got behind me once they realised I had done my research and had answers to all their questions, like the risks involved and what to expect during the recovery period. I had done a lot of reading on the subject beforehand so felt really prepared (I only wish the www.donateakidney.co.uk was around when I was donating and I’m sure I would have read that too!).
It was quite a long process, longer than I initially expected. It was over a year before all the tests were done and I was told I could donate a kidney. I had just missed one of the matching runs that they do to match non-directed donors to people in need of a kidney, and had to wait a few months for the next one. But there were no big issues along the way, just pushing through the process.
I had never been an inpatient at a hospital before, other than during my first pregnancy, so I didn’t know what to expect during the operation day. But everything was explained really clearly every step of the way. To be honest I didn’t feel nervous at all. I think my husband John was more nervous than I was!
I was taken down to surgery quite quickly and everything went really smoothly. I don’t remember too much about waking up from surgery, but all the healthcare team were great at being there for me and offering pain relief in case I needed it.
I was quite uncomfortable for the first few days after the surgery, but nowhere near as bad as I had worried I’d be. Two weeks after the operation I felt absolutely fine again. Two months on, I was feeling good enough in myself to get back to exercise classes and hardly felt the difference in myself. I couldn’t suggest it’s the same for absolutely everybody who donates a kidney, but personally it wasn’t anywhere near as bad as I expected. My husband said the same thing – he had expected to wait on me hand and foot for weeks, but I was up and doing the cooking just a few days after my operation!
Everybody is different, but I found the process infinitely more rewarding than anything I have sacrificed. I have absolutely no consequences in my day-to-day life as a result of donating a kidney – apart from going up hills a little slower than before, but I’m hoping I can improve on that! I only wish more people knew that donating a kidney while alive is something you’re able to do as I still talk to people who don’t even know it’s possible.
After my donation, I still wanted to do more for the cause and help raise awareness. I did a fundraiser for Kidney Research UK, and they mentioned the UK Living Kidney Donation Buddy Support Service. It was something I really wanted to get involved in! I know that it would have been nice to have had someone to talk to during my own donation journey who I could talk and ask questions to. I’ve formally retired now, and if I’m able to help someone understand what’s involved in the donation process and share my experience, that’d be great.
"We had seen the impact of a transplant first hand. It provides a chance of a normal life."
Read"I feel really happy in myself that I had the opportunity to help my sister the way I have."
Read"The difference we’ve seen in my sister since her transplant has been absolutely incredible."
Read"It felt just like donating blood, but with more checks. If I could help someone, then I wanted to do it."
ReadWhen his younger brother, George, was suddenly diagnosed with kidney disease, Ed was determined to support him in any way he could.
Read"Someone out there in need of a kidney has been set free and I don’t even feel any different to how I was before."
ReadA kidney donation from John's daughter meant that he is now able to enjoy time with his great granddaughter.
Read"I hope my story shows just what a wonderful, life-saving gift it is to donate a kidney."
Read"I’ve seen how donating a kidney can improve a family and give somebody back their life after years of suffering.”
Read"If I had three kidneys, I’d absolutely donate another one tomorrow, unquestionably."
Read“I’m a great believer that when you light a lamp for somebody, it will also brighten your path.”
Read"It’s now been almost 13 years since I donated, and nothing has changed in terms of my health or my lifestyle."
Read"Here was a chance to do something kind without having to wait for someone I know to need my support."
Read"Seeing how it helped my brother has made it all so, so worth it. As much as the journey was scary, it’s proven to be so rewarding."
Read“I wanted to share my kidney donation story to help build awareness of the good that we all can do to help someone worse off.”
Read“It’s amazing how a small amount of inconvenience on my part can make such a huge difference to someone else.”
Read20 years ago, David's enthusiasm for life was put to the test when he found out his kidneys were failing and he would need a transplant.
ReadAisha is determined to raise awareness of living kidney donation and encourage more people in South Asian communities to consider donating.
Read"My husband was living on dialysis, and I saw the constant reality of what that meant for him."
Read"I set myself clear goals to return to fitness and running after my kidney donation."
Read"This is me, Louise Sach, shortly after I was diagnosed with chronic renal failure."
Read"It has now been over a year since my donation. I have zero pain or discomfort, and I am entirely back to normal with nothing but a scar to remind me of my experience."
ReadRachel already knew more than she wanted to about the process of kidney donation before she gave her spare kidney to someone she didn’t know.
ReadHenry donated a kidney to his sister Helen, and has seen first-hand the difference a donation can make for someone with kidney disease.
Read“It has made absolutely no difference to my day-to-day life. My mum, however, has a life like never before.”
ReadNaomi knew she wanted to donate a kidney after learning about kidney disease and reality of life on dialysis.
ReadJoyce thought that she was too old to donate a kidney, before learning there was no upper age limit for donating.
ReadMandy donated one of her kidneys to her younger cousin Lou, who was diagnosed with kidney problems when she was two years old.
Read"I don’t consider myself to be a hero or brave. I just did what I was brought up to do – to help others."
ReadJulie worked hard to stay fit and healthy while she was preparing to donate a kidney to her nephew.
Read"At the beginning it seemed like a difficult decision to make, but since the operation I don’t have any regrets."
ReadTessa believes that donating a kidney to a stranger is one of the best decisions she's ever made.
ReadLynn was 75 when she donated a kidney altruistically. "I knew I wanted to do it if I was capable of doing so."
Read“You don’t need to be a superhero, you don’t need to be a mega star of any sort. It’s something that normal people just like me can do."
ReadLaura knew she would donate a kidney to her sister if she needed it. When the time came, she found the process absolutely worth it.
ReadMatt's dream of joining the police was shattered by an unexpected diagnosis of kidney disease, but his mother's kidney donation allowed him to thrive and pursue new dreams.
Read"I've learnt a lot about myself and my own health – I would do it again in a heartbeat (if I had another kidney to spare!)"
Read"I believe that if you are in a position to help someone else less fortunate than yourself, then you should do so."
ReadEvery kidneyversary deserves a celebration, but in 2024 Elaine marked a particularly poignant milestone – 10 years since she donated a kidney to her eldest daughter.
Read"I feel immeasurably better in myself knowing I have been able to give my brother the gift of a healthy life."
ReadDennis is keen to show people that you can still live your life as normal and achieve great things after donating a kidney.
ReadWhen Ali heard that a former colleague was waiting for a kidney transplant, he knew within minutes that he would offer one of his.
Read"My mum needed a kidney, and I didn’t need both of mine. When I heard that, I didn't have any hesitation."
ReadKathryn faced life-changing kidney failure after being diagnosed with the rare disease, IgA vasculitis.
ReadMarianne has seen first hand the benefits that kidney donation can bring to a family, and feels blessed that she was able to donate a kidney to her brother.
ReadBen felt drained by kidney disease for over 12 years before his cousin gave him a second chance at life by donating his kidney.
ReadJulie donated to her son and knows first hand that donating an organ doesn’t just save a person. It saves a family.
ReadAnne donated into the UK Living Kidney Sharing Scheme so that her brother could receive a kidney transplant.
Read"Within both the Jain and Hindu faiths benevolence to others is supposed to be a key principle. What could be a greater act of benevolence than transforming someone’s life by giving them part of yourself?"
Read"If I had more Kidneys to give, I'd be donating to anyone who needed one."
ReadTrainee teacher Mark is grateful for the life-saving kidney transplant from his brother that put him back on track for life and his career.
ReadSheldon & Hayley watched their daughter Daisy-May go from a shock diagnosis of kidney failure to dialysis, then transplant, in an emotional rollercoaster lasting 16 months.
ReadMy donor gave me a life to live for. I have done things I had never considered doing whilst on dialysis.
Read"If I had another kidney to spare, I would donate in a heartbeat. It was life changing for my husband, and for me as a person."
ReadDavid is just an average Joe. A motorcycling, 54-year-old father and grandfather. And 6 years ago, he donated one of his kidneys to someone who needed it more than he did.
Read40 years ago, Kathleen donated one of her kidneys to Cheryl, who was just five years old at the time.
Read"Giving a small part of me that I didn’t need to someone else would make little difference in my life, but a huge difference in theirs – it was an easy decision for me to make."
ReadLiz's family struggled at first with her determination to donate her kidney to someone unrelated to her.
Read"I donated a kidney to my dad 10 years ago, aged 25. To me, it was a no brainer."
ReadSarah had seen the life-changing difference donating a kidney could have, and immediately knew it was something she wanted to do.
ReadI would not feel as comfortable in my own skin as I do now if I had not donated my kidney.
ReadPete’s kidney gave me my life back and gave my son Edward a mum with energy and vitality.
ReadWhether you’ve already decided to donate a kidney, or you are interested in finding out more about the process and what it involves, we’re here to answer any questions you might have.