"I love having the opportunity to help someone else going through the donation process."
My identical twin sister Donna was diagnosed with kidney disease in March 2024. Her kidney function was found to be 22%, and dropped down to 15% by December that year. She was told she should join the kidney transplant register. I immediately put myself forward to donate a kidney for her.
I was fortunate as I had been going with her to her renal meetings so knew a lot of the team at Wolverhampton. Six weeks later, the first test results came back and showed my kidney was a match for her. We’d hoped that would be the case given we’re twins, but it was still really good to get it confirmed.
From there I went for further tests to check I was healthy enough to donate one of my kidneys. There were lots of tests involved! More than I had expected before learning about the process. Six months later, I was told everything had come back positive and I was able to donate.
We were given a transplant date for August. Sadly I caught Covid which meant it couldn’t go ahead. After all the anxiety and tests and stress we went through, to have an end date confirmed, only to have it moved at the last minute – that really broke me. Luckily though, they were able to get another date exactly a month later.
We were admitted to the Queen Elizabeth the day before the surgery. I was really excited! I’d never had an operation before, but had been told what to expect by my coordinator. Funnily enough, all my nerves had dissipated. I was like a giddy little kid!
My sister was quite quiet. I know she felt guilty asking this of her sister, which she didn’t need to feel at all. I wanted to donate my kidney to her, and didn’t want her worrying. When they wheeled my bed away to go to surgery I pretended I was driving the bed with a steering wheel, trying to make her laugh!
I woke up after the operation and definitely knew I’d donated a kidney. I immediately tried to sit up and – urf! It certainly wasn’t comfortable as my body got used to living with one kidney.
I didn’t get to see Donna on the day of the op, but was told everything had gone well. The physio arrived to get me moving and out of the bed; I said I really wanted to walk to Donna’s ward, just down the hall. I just wanted to hug her – though I still couldn’t move much!
I got there with the physio’s help. She was sitting uncomfortably because of the operation scar, but I could immediately see she was just her best self again. The colour had returned to her face. I was so happy to see her well, and she was really happy to see I was okay. It was a very emotional moment.
We recovered in separate wards, which gave me the chance to meet more of the people around me. Next to me was a lady who had been in for six weeks as her new kidney was struggling to wake up. She said chatting with me and hearing about our situation gave her hope. We swapped numbers and still chat today.
I stayed in hospital from Thursday until Sunday before being sent home to continue recovering. I needed around two months of resting up to recover, then was well enough to go back to work.
I’m now a Buddy for the UK Living Kidney Donation Buddy Support Service. I’ve worked in local government for over ten years now and meeting people is my favourite part of the job. Learning about people who’d gone through the process really helped me during my journey, and I love having the opportunity to help someone else going through the donation process.
Whether you’ve already decided to donate a kidney, or you are interested in finding out more about the process and what it involves, we’re here to answer any questions you might have.