"What was really just a minor inconvenience for me has given my husband his life back"
Last July, after a few weeks of being nauseous and lethargic I took my husband to A&E as I was struggling to wake him up after 48 hours of sleep. Within 3 hours of entering the hospital our lives changed dramatically – we were told that his kidney function was at 2%. He had never had problems with his kidneys before.
He was taken straight to ICU to be dialysed, and stayed on a dialysis machine for 72 hours. After 10 days he was stable enough to be transferred to a renal until an hour away, and here we learned that the only option for him was to establish a routine whereby he be dialysed every other day whilst he was tested to see if he was suitable for a kidney transplant.
A few hours after we received the news from his consultant we were visited by one of the transplant co-ordinators from the hospital who told us that there were options for both deceased donor and living donor transplant. Immediately I suggested that I be tested as a potential donor. Luckily for us I was both a blood and tissue type match, so after 5 months of testing we were able to proceed with a direct donation from me to him.
My only concern throughout the process was that we would go through everything and his body would reject, but we were assured by his team that they would do everything in their power to stop that from happening, and that if they didn’t think we had the best chance with a direct donation they would suggest that we enter the sharing scheme instead.
I went down to theatre at 8.30am, and by 11.30am was being bought back round to the news that my husbands operation was well under way and progressing well. At 6pm that evening he returned to the ward with my kidney safely transplanted and some fantastic pictures of said kidney in his medical notes!!
My surgeon gave me some local anaesthetic in my abdomen before I came round, and I didn’t feel the need to take any further pain relief.
On day 3 I was discharged back to our teenagers at home, to take full advantage of them being out of their bedrooms and offering to help! For the first week or so I moved much slower than I usually would, but was able to go and visit my husband back on the ward.
By the end of week 3 I was able to drive short distances, and by the end of week 4 I was able to spend a few hours at a time back at my office (because I love my job rather than out of necessity!). At week 5 I went back to yoga, week 6 reformer Pilates, and by week 8 I was back playing netball twice a week.
There were parts of my recovery that were emotionally and mentally tough – particularly giving in to the need to slow down and let other people help, but I would do it all over again in a heartbeat. I am now 10 weeks on and people can not believe that I donated an organ less than 3 months ago and am bouncing around just as I was before!
It really is remarkable that what was really just a minor inconvenience for me has given my husband his life back – I am thankful every day that the opportunity to be a living donor was even possible.
I didn’t know anything about kidney disease or living donation before this hit our family – and now I can only hope that this story encourages just one person to enter the testing scheme and save someone else’s life.
“I’m so grateful to my sister for making my transplant possible. She has recovered quickly and is doing amazing."
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